What is left, after all, of all the relationships we experience? The encounters, the promises, the break-ups, the departures. What led us to someone and what made us stay. The subtle thread that unites past and present, tracing paths that sometimes seem to repeat, sometimes surprise us with unexpected deviations.
It all counts. Everything is still here.
The Duogram is a compass to orient yourself in this relational map. A tool for therapists, a process for those who go through it, a method that combines word and image, thought and experience. The Duogram helps to give shape and meaning to the couple’s life stories, allowing those who use it to re-read them with a broader and more conscious look.
Through narration and graphic representation, the Duogram reconstructs the ties that crossed us, the experienced, the imagined, the interrupted. It’s not just a story, but an exploration: relationships take shape on paper as the story passes through them, where it’s important both how they are expressed and what is chosen to be shared. A carefully guided process by the therapist, who accompanies the person in understanding their own stories.
It is a perspective on the stories of couples, outlined to reveal what often remains invisible: the subtle movements that lead us to choose, to unite, to lose ourselves, to find ourselves. A method that does not judge, but observes, that does not simplify, but opens spaces of understanding, that does not give ready answers, but generates transformative questions.
The Duogram is an invitation to see, beyond the usual story, what we haven’t seen yet.
The Duogramma was born at the intersection of graphic representation and storytelling, memory and transformation.
Similar to the Genogram, which focuses on family relationships between generations, the Duogram focuses on the couple stories of one person, offering an evolutionary reading,focusing on a single generation, that of the narrating subject. The Duogramma illuminates the trajectory of a person’s couple relationships, returning their movement over time.
This is not an exercise to be completed, but a journey that is built in dialogue and that reveals its complexity by becoming different each time.. It’s not a static photograph, but an evolving process: the same person, at different times, will tell it in a different way. There isn’t just one Duogram for a person: each time it is approached, new stories, new perspectives, new questions and new answers emerge. That is where its difficulty lies. Therein lies its revolution.
And it is precisely in dialogue that the heart of this method is revealed: there is no truth to be found, but questions that open paths. There is no mandatory direction, but possibilities to be explored.
The Duogramma was born in training and therapy. It has roots in clinical practice, has been refined by experience, has been studied, taught, experienced.
From Italy to Latin America, Duogramma has already transformed the way couples’ relationships are read in psychology centers, psychotherapy schools and international clinical contexts. In Mexico, Brazil, Chile and Paraguay, it has become a reference point for therapists who want to go beyond traditional models.
Those who practice it know that you don’t improvise: you learn, experiment, and apply it to yourself before leading others in the process. Because you can’t accompany someone to read their story if you’re not available to read your story first.
For those who use it in therapy, it provides a powerful tool to accompany patients. Through the Duogramma, the narrator can give shape and meaning to their experiences, dissolving rigid narratives and finding new possibilities. The Duogramma helps to capture your deep structures, repetitions, ruptures, escape routes.
In addition, it contemplates, and this is one of its great strengths, the work on the therapist’s own relationship as a couple, which ensures that the view that deciphers and the voice that asks are also prepared for the encounter. Because every therapist brings with them their story and their view. And only those who can recognize their own resonances can work without judging, aware of personal premises, opening new possibilities.
Each therapist enters the room with their own story. Even if it is invisible, even if we believe we are leaving it out, it is there, in our gestures, in the questions we choose to ask, in the silences we decide to respect.
We learn to observe relationships, to explore the patterns that unite and separate, but sometimes we forget that our view is not neutral: it carries with it its resonances, its shadows, its silent preferences. Thus, it happens that one story strikes us more than another, that a choice seems more understandable to us, that a story makes us hold our breath for no apparent reason.
The Duogramma is not only a tool for reading others’ stories. It’s an exercise in transforming the way we read stories, which narratives attract us and which disturb us, in which dynamics we find ourselves “cheering” and which make us more skeptical.
Understanding the resonances themselves does not mean avoiding them, but recognizing them. Because when we know where we’re looking from, we can choose how to look. When we know the filter of our story, we can really open up to the patient’s story.
Where is the limit? Their stories are also about us. And if we can hear them without imposing our stories, they can show us something we haven’t seen yet.
The Duogramma is not used: it is crossed.
The Duogramma is designed for psychotherapists and psychologists who want to broaden their reading of the couple’s dynamics and integrate it into their clinical practice. Through the Duogramma, they can:
The name, Duogramma
No story exists by itself. Duo, because the couple is the heart of the search. Gramma, because every story leaves a mark, a mutable trail.
The payoff, per filo e per segno
In Italian, the expression “per filo e per segno” defines a work done with attention, precision and following defined criteria. The Filo [thread] is also for us the thread of narration and the segno [representation] is the graphic we choose to represent the couple’s stories. The Duogramma is a meticulous and precise work, which crosses the stories with the precision of a weaver and the freedom of a narrator. The “filo” thread, like relationships that intertwine, breaks and unites in unexpected ways. The “segno” representation, like the line on paper, like the way we leave a trace in each other’s history. It’s a promise: every detail counts, every story is handled accurately, every detail finds its place, every relationship is analyzed without judgment.
The logo, a dialogical representation
The Duogramma logo is also not fixed or rigid. It is construction, it is dialogue. The logo is not immediately legible, it is composed only when two voices meet. One letter alone is incomplete, but when the second appears, the word is fully revealed. A geometric logo, but irregular, challenging to face, as any relationship is when you look at it honestly.
And just like relationships, the logo is not static. In digital media, it comes to life, revealing that understanding is a process in the making, an incomplete signal that only finds its meaning when the other voice takes its place alongside the first.