Every story told is a choice and, as such, has value. The Duogramma does not seek an objective truth, but a relational truth: what the person chooses to say says a lot about them and their premises about relationships.
People argue anyway, regardless of the Duogramma. Our aim is not to appease conflicts, but to bring them to light so that they become opportunities for transformation. Conflict is communication, it is not a problem to be avoided, but a door to be crossed.
It is not a test, nor a test of “good couple” or “good therapy”. If a person chooses not to do this, this choice becomes part of the dialogue: why does he/she not want to? What does this mean for him or her? We respect the decision, but we do not ignore the reasons behind it.
There is no set time. One session may be sufficient or multiple sessions may be required. The important thing is to not be in a hurry: the Duogramma needs space to emerge.
No. The Duogramma is a process, not an individual exercise. It is built in the relationship, in the space of therapy or training, in the dialogue with those who lead and with those who participate.
Yes. The way the story takes shape on paper is an integral part of observation: how much space does one relationship take up compared to the others? Where does it fit in time? The lines, the organization, the dimensions also speak of relational dynamics and meanings.
No. The Duogramma is not an exam. The life stories of a therapist are part of their baggage of experiences and premises, as well as their training. Reflecting on your own story helps you recognize your own resources and become aware of the risks you may encounter in your work. This is not a selection, but an opportunity for growth.